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A woman and a man, both designed by nature to be equally stripped of common sense during states of arousal begin a journey of sex which becomes unequal the moment there is any consequence whatsoever.
Before sex even begins, women, in order to protect themselves from pregnancy, must bear the medical prevention of it via hormonal treatments that are known factually to increase cancer, cause blood clots, weight changes, mood disorders, etc. While men do have birth control options such as vasectomies and other medical interventions, we just don’t see them signing up for it.
Condoms, while a good tool for prevention are often not used, in so many cases due to pressure from men not wanting to “lose sensation” at a time women are the most vulnerable, already in bed naked with a man.
Once that pregnancy occurs, the man says “I don’t want to pay” and automatically treats a baby like an expense rather than a human life who will require food and actual care to survive, since babies do not actually care for themselves and cannot meet any needs on their own.
It becomes a choice for a woman. Can she do this alone? Because in every case she will have to be able to. Men always have the option to leave and do leave and always can just say they are broke and won’t pay.
Men who ask for equal rights to force a woman to have a child without considering the effects pregnancy has on her body, long term effects, the possibilities of bad outcomes such as death or the impact of new children on her other children if she already has them, aren’t acknowledging that the ramifications of pregnancy are anything but equal.
Women bear the brunt of continuing the human race. We literally raise you. Then we are treated like the quality of our lives doesn’t matter.
Are many fathers good? Yes. Do some men say things like, “If you decide against terminating our child due to the fact that it is a horrible moral burden on your conscience, and since I have equally contributed to your pregnancy, I commit to equally providing reliable and consistent, competent care to our baby.” Yes.
Does that happen most of the time? No it doesn’t.
Women always have to accept full responsibility for the child because in most cases she will be the primary caregiver and will have to give up her life to her children.
She’s also likely to have to be the sole breadwinner too, and if she doesn’t earn enough she will have to watch her child/children starve.
I am so sick of men and their careless sperm and their tight fists of fatherhood. Children suffer in poverty.
They suffer when their mothers are weak and tired and stressed. I’m sick of families who don’t step up. I’m sick of the moral high ground people take when they aren’t the actual pregnant person having to make a life choice.
I think women should go on a sex strike. We are not valued as mothers. We are taken for granted and treaded on and used up as “host bodies” and default caregivers.
Many men are competent caregivers but so many are just not competent at all. Women have to choose between delegating caregiving tasks to these incompetent fathers and receiving child support because of course men, if they’re paying, they expect control.
I think of the woman who left her 11 month old daughter in the care of her baby’s father who then raped her to death, after which he googled, “How do you know if a baby is dead?” What desperate situation must she have been in to permit this man to watch her child?
If you surveyed women, my guess is they would agree they should be the primary caregiver, after all, a woman has breasts needed for breast feeding (not to say that women who rely on formula are lesser mothers).
I believe most women would want to be home with their child, especially during the infant stages. But it’s the part where women are expected to be the primary caregiver and the primary bread winner that’s such an insult.
We are expected to work full time jobs while also nursing an infant who requires feeding every 2–3 hours in order to not die. How does anyone think that it is possible to do both? Nursing is a full time job all by itself. Not to mention that paid full time jobs don’t even cover the basic bills of life anymore.
How brain dead do you have to be to think an infant is getting the real care it needs when a mother has to work a full time job? Even with good child care circumstances you still have a baby who is not getting breastfed, which is a known factor in bad health outcomes for children later in life. How do you think a mother’s stress affects a child, and her breastmilk for that matter?
What kind of people do you think these babies of desperate women become?
Mothers become the people who take care of the baby everyone thinks they have a right to but no one actually gives respect to or help to.
Help becomes optional and is called charity, further denigrating the dignity of the mother.
Have a health issue after giving birth? Oh well. No one cares and no one is going to help you. People hate complainers and they turn away from their suffering because it brings them down.
What do you consider to be our responsibility to a child to make sure he/she is given proper care? After all, a child is a blessing, a sacred, innocent soul that should be protected according to lawmakers stripping away a women’s right to choose. That fawning notion only lasts as long as the child is a convenient embryo, tucked neatly in the womb of a woman the state has no desire to assist financially or medically. Once the child is born, both the mother and child quickly become an inconvenience and a burden to society.
Anyone who doesn’t stand up for abortion rights for women is at best complicit in the abuse of women and children everywhere.
People who are pro-life should start in their local communities helping mothers who need help taking care of their babies. If you don’t support welfare or food programs then you have no place pushing birth on poor women.
Men, get a vasectomy if you want control. Otherwise shut up! If a woman decides to keep your baby consider yourself lucky that she is putting her life on the line to create another one that is made up of half of you after all, and accept the full magnitude of your responsibility for your act of nature.
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